Today’s blog is on RESPECT. I thought I would post a few different websites and then post my view on the topic.
Respect denotes both a positive feeling of esteem for a person or other entity (such as a nation or a religion), and also specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem. Respect can be a specific feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected (e.g., “I have great respect for her judgment”). It can also be conduct in accord with a specific ethic of respect. Rude conduct is usually considered to indicate a lack of respect, whereas actions that honour somebody or something indicate respect.
Specific ethics of respect are of fundamental importance to various cultures. Respect for tradition and legitimate authority is identified by Jonathan Haidt as one of five fundamental moral values shared to a greater or lesser degree by different societies and individuals. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Respect
re·spect (ri spekt′)
- to feel or show honor or esteem for; hold in high regard
- to consider or treat with deference or dutiful regard
- to show consideration for; avoid intruding upon or interfering with to respect others’ privacy
- to concern; relate to
Etymology: < L respectus, pp. of respicere, to look at, look back on, respect < re-, back + specere, to look at: see spy
- a feeling of high regard, honor, or esteem to have respect for a great artist
- a state of being held in honor or esteem to have the respect of one’s sons
- deference or dutiful regard respect for the law
- consideration; courteous regard to have respect for the feelings of others
- courteous expressions of regard: now chiefly in pay one’s respects, to show polite regard by visiting or presenting oneself
- a particular point or detail right in every respect
- reference; relation with respect to the problem
Etymology: ME respecte < L respectus, a looking at, respect, regard: pp. used as n.
Okay now for my take on this subject. I believe respect is something that is not to be taken too lightly as some people like to do. I also believe that respect is something that we all have to earn in life. Also respect has many aspects involved in it.
Some feel that others should automatically respect them. Well this is not the case nor should it be. Respect has to be something you earned from others. There is various ways one can earn the respect to others. If you have served your country in the armed forces, if you are doing something in your life to help out others, if you are being a great parent to your kids, if you are courteous to everyone, if you are a helpful person, are you doing something that inspires others to do great things, and etc,. The list can go on.
However you can lose the respect of others or not even get it from others at all. This can happen by going are and demanding that everyone should respect you, acting like a jerk to others, disrespecting others in various ways, not being a good family member or friend, thinking of yourself first, not acting in an ethical manner, and the list goes on. I find you can lose the respect of others faster than you can gain it.
One element of respect that is important is TRUST. You cannot have respect for someone that is not trustworthy. Someone who goes out of their way to hurt people, lie to them, and just do things that society in general views as wrong and unethical are not trustful. Normally when you have high respect for an individual, it normally means that you trust them. You trust what they say is the truth and that they have nothing but good intention for you.
Respect is something that is very special. If you have the trust of others, it feels great. When the respect is gone, it is a poor feeling. Respect and trust takes time to build. It can take several weeks, months, or even years build. It can only take a few seconds for you to loose it all. The best way to get and kept the respect and trust of others is to treat them like you want to be treated. If you are good to others, they will be good to you. If you act like a jerk, expect some backlash. Also remember that some people just won’t respect and trust you no matter what. That is just the way things are. Don’t worry about it, carry on with your life.
Final note, if you have that one person that you respect and trust more than anything in life, do whatever it takes to hang on to them. In a respectful and trusting manner of course. There is very few people like that out there. Cherish them. I have a few of them, and they know I know that they know.
Take care for now,
Master Jonathan Field