What others think of you is none of your business. People’s opinions are just that, their opinions. Opinions created in their conscious mind for them and them alone.
Yes obviously we all want others to like us, love us, and etc,. This is normal. However we only want the select few of those people like friends, family, some co-workers, clients, students, and etc,. The rest do not matter. And what I mean about the rest is those people that think negativity about you.
You do not need to concern yourself with the negative opinions of negative people who create negative experiences in their own negative conscious minds. Phew that’s a lot of negative. But that is the reality of the situation.
You see, people tend to form negative opinions about you based on their own insecurities about themselves. They cannot seem to or don’t want to deal with their own issues so they must find negative traits or faults in what you do or what others do. Whether they are jealous about the amount of success you have, or how you live your life, or you won something, and so forth. Or perhaps you had to make an ethical decision that they don’t agree with so they have to find fault in that.
What you will find from this though is that they have created these negative experiences entirely in their own head. Most of what happened is solely inside their conscious mind and they won’t or can’t take responsibility for these opinions and feelings. They would rather past them off on someone else than to deal with it themselves.
Instead of being inspired by someone else’s success they have to tare that person down so they can make themselves feel better. Or instead of looking at all viewpoints of any given situation they just find a faulty view and go running with that.
All humans including you and I are all guilty of this behaviour from time to time. Most of us control it though and not allow it to effect ourselves or anyone else in a negative way. But some do allow it. But like I said before, it is none of our business to care about the opinions of others. We should be focus on creating happiness and excellence in the lives of the people we meet and love, as well as in ourselves.
Master Jonathan Field
Cobourg Tae Kwon Do